<2> The Mattering Instinct: Why You Care If I Think You Matter
<3> The Power of Validation
<4> Rebecca Newberger Goldstein, a renowned author and “Genius Grant” honoree, has written a thought-provoking book on the concept of the “mattering instinct.” This essential human drive is surprisingly crucial to both individuals and societies, and Goldstein’s work sheds light on its significance.
<5> What is the Mattering Instinct?
The mattering instinct is the fundamental human need to feel valued, noticed, and appreciated by others. It is the desire to be seen, heard, and understood, and to know that one’s existence has meaning and purpose. This instinct is present in all of us, from the moment we are born, and it continues to shape our lives and relationships throughout our existence.
<6> The Importance of Validation
Validation is a crucial aspect of the mattering instinct. When we feel validated, we feel seen, heard, and understood. We feel that our thoughts, feelings, and experiences are acknowledged and appreciated. Validation is not just about receiving praise or recognition; it is about being acknowledged as a person with inherent value and worth.
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